Why we shout in anger
I read a story awhile back that has stuck in my mind and heart. I found several versions of the same story, but felt most drawn to the following version from Omswami.com:
A sage, with his disciples, was taking a morning stroll by the Ganges and chanting the holy names. There was a couple at a distance, they were distressed and shouting at each other. It turned out that man’s wife had lost her necklace of gold while taking a dip in the Ganges. Her husband unleashed a flurry of filthy slur and she was shouting back no less.
The saint stopped, turned towards his disciples and said, “Why do people shout in anger?”
One of the disciples replied, “Because when we lose our calm, we shout.”
“Granted,” said the sage, “but, why should you raise your voice when the other person is just next to you? It’s not that he’s hearing you better that way. You can still make your point without shouting at the top of your voice.”
They offered various answers, none with any revelation.
Finally, the sage spoke:
“Anger immediately creates a distance. When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are no longer close, their emotions are divided and they go miles apart. To cover that distance they yell. The angrier they are, the louder they shout. They are no longer in mode of love, of acceptance, of proximity. They are unable to hear each other, shouting is how they believe they can be heard.
And! what happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, they almost whisper, because their hearts are very close. There’s little or no distance between them. When they love each other even more, they exchange even less words, more softly, they murmur, they whisper, yet they hear each other better, their bond strengthens, their love prospers. Finally, they may not even whisper, they only look at each other, silence becomes more potent than speech, that’s how close two people can get when they are in love.
So when you argue do not say words that break your bond of love and make you distant from each other.”
When you find yourself in the situation where you are shouting or even stewing in anger, take a moment - inhale and exhale deeply. Shouting does not make you more right or more heard. See all the anger come together as a ball of dark energy in your head and send that contained ball down your throat to your heart to be healed and transmuted into white light. Do not carry that anger energy around and do not blast it upon others - neither way helps anyone or anything, it is only destructive.
4/28/2015 10:18:02 pm
What a lovely story. Thank you.
5/5/2015 06:28:15 am
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Hello! I'm Adrienne Almamour, an empathic intuitive conduit. I assist people by detecting and clearing their subconscious emotional energy blockages. This blog is a commentary and reflection of life from an intuitive standpoint which also incorporates ways that allow us to be from our heart.