What can I give?
I'm not going to write much today as I believe this video speaks for itself and does so succinctly. Please take 3 minutes and watch the video below. Allow your life to be shifted by what this comedian shares. His touching and heart-wrenching story about a little Spider Man massively impacted me. This short video has a BIG message. Will you apply it?
What can you do to give? What's something nice you can do for someone else? We all hit hard times. I know how grateful I've been to be on the receiving end as well as how my heart sings when I'm giving. If we all start doing nice things for each other - think of how magical a place this world could be.
Hugs, Laughter and Love - Adrienne :)
“Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they will end the friendship. They live with guilt and constant pain over unresolved situations and misunderstandings. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them because their soul has been constantly bruised by others. However, despite the tragedy of what they have to go through in life, they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing and the ones that often become activists for the broken-hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved.
I read the above quote recently just after having my heart broken by the person I loved and trusted the most. This would've been the perfect 'I resonate with this' quote - except it's not. Yes, it is hard being super sensitive. Yes, we pick up on pain way more than most. Yes, we will stand up for the broken-hearted, forgotten and misunderstood because we can empathize at a very deep level with what they're going through. And yes, we need a lot of love due to feeling pain so deeply. But, if you really look at what this quote is saying, it describes us as victims and having the necessity to look outside of ourselves for our needs - and that leads to a very unhappy and painful life.
I agree that the sensitives I know, myself most definitely included, are genuine and will share our feelings if we feel there's a level of trust. Speaking for myself - if you betray that trust, it's hard to nearly impossible to regain my trust again. This is one of my lessons - learn how to forgive people and be compassionate to them and myself throughout the process. Let go of "their hold" on me - so to speak as it's not really them persecuting me, it's my own thoughts, beliefs and feelings on the matter. But, I guess it doesn't hurt to keep in mind: fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
A few years ago, I would've completely agreed with the tortured souls part and constantly being bruised by others. In fact, it's how I saw myself. But, I get it now that life happens. Our emotions are our reactions to our perspective of the situation at hand. There is nothing wrong with feeling how we feel - dwelling in it and letting it consume us is another story. I'm still learning how to acknowledge, accept and integrate how I'm feeling - especially with an ego that seems addicted to drama and keeping me in despair. I have been hurt and deeply and I often wonder why things keep happening to me. I would wager that I'm not alone in that. But, I believe our Soul is never bruised. Our heart, yes - not our Soul.
The part about us needing the most love anyone can give us - sets us up to crash and burn as it leaves us relying on others for our love. Yes, we do thrive on love and we prefer to feel good feelings off other people - doesn't everyone at some level? What we need to understand is that love must come from inside us. We must connect to that part of ourselves where unconditional love resides. As humans we're so busy looking for love - but it's always the conditional kind and that can and does end. Agape Love - or God Love - never ends, is always present and just is LOVE no matter what you do or who you are. That is TRUE LOVE. That is the kind of love I've set my sights on.
I have no doubt what Shannon wrote is true for her in the moment. I can identify with a lot of what she said. If you know someone who is highly sensitive - be compassionate with them. Telling them they're just being oversensitive doesn't help. They know they're oversensitive - there's nothing wrong with that as that's how God sent them into the world. Sensitive people are wonderful mirrors for how we show up in this world. If anything, learn from them. As a super sensitive - I choose to be the Angel who flies no matter what. I will not let my wounds keep me down nor rely on others to lift me up. This is my motivation for healing and moving through one of the biggest and most painful sucker punches life has dealt me.
Which world do you live in?
Driving in cars, eating at restaurants, waiting in airports - it doesn't matter where you are or what you're doing, you will always find someone immersed in their smart phone or tablet. It begs the question, does having the world at your fingertips take away from the world around you? People jump for their phones as soon as it pings, rings or vibrates. They're so conditioned not to miss a text or a call, but what about the world around them? What interactions are they missing out on in real-time?
One of my favorite examples is the photo of the guy on his phone while humpback whales pass right next to his boat and he never looks up. Whatever his reason for being glued to his phone, it is a perfect representation of how people can be oblivious to the world around them. It begs the question, how many magical moments are we missing out on?
Which world are you living in? Is it the one inside your phone, tablet or computer or the one that actually surrounds you? Do you prefer to update your 1,300 friends or actually meet up with a good friend at a cafe? Do you really want to spend your time and energy constantly looking outside of yourself? Do you really want to focus your attention on anyone and everyone else and their lives? Do you prefer technology as a distraction or escape from your own life? Ask yourself these questions and then ask yourself 'why?'
If you're among the smartphone/tablet/internet addicts - I invite you to take some time and disconnect from technology. Have an actual conversation with the people around you. Take in the environment you find yourself in. Be present and enjoy the moment. Log in to your own heart. Your fingers, eyes and mind would probably appreciate the rest - Adrienne ;)
There is a video that's been circulating for quite some time and it recently surfaced again as a music video. It involves performance artists Marina Abramović and Uwe Laysiepen, known as Ulay. Performance art is where the audience doesn't just watch the spectacle, they are a part of the spectacle. Marina is known for, what some would consider, very risqué and dangerous pieces. She and Ulay had performed together for quite a few years. They had a very unique and metaphysical relationship. When it came time for them to go their separate ways, they did so by walking from opposite ends of The Great Wall of China and meeting in the middle. It took them 3 months to accomplish this. That is one heck of a way to get closure.
In 2010, Marina performed "The Artist Is Present" at the MOMA. This was where she sat immobile and in silence for 736 hours and 30 minutes over the course of 2.5 months. Spectators were able to take turns sitting opposite Marina for a minute. When Ulay takes his turn, time seems to stop and we are witness to an emotional interchange. Some say it was the first time they'd seen each other in 30 years, others say they'd met up the morning of the opening. Regardless, it's a beautiful moment of connection - of past meeting present. It is one that definitely touched my heart. Love, Adrienne :)
Hello! I'm Adrienne Almamour, an empathic intuitive conduit. I assist people by detecting and clearing their subconscious emotional energy blockages. This blog is a commentary and reflection of life from an intuitive standpoint which also incorporates ways that allow us to be from our heart.