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Why we shout in anger

4/29/2015

I read a story awhile back that has stuck in my mind and heart. I found several versions of the same story, but felt most drawn to the following version from Omswami.com:

A sage, with his disciples, was taking a morning stroll by the Ganges and chanting the holy names. There was a couple at a distance, they were distressed and shouting at each other. It turned out that man’s wife had lost her necklace of gold while taking a dip in the Ganges. Her husband unleashed a flurry of filthy slur and she was shouting back no less.

The saint stopped, turned towards his disciples and said, “Why do people shout in anger?”
One of the disciples replied, “Because when we lose our calm, we shout.”
“Granted,” said the sage, “but, why should you raise your voice when the other person is just next to you? It’s not that he’s hearing you better that way. You can still make your point without shouting at the top of your voice.”

They offered various answers, none with any revelation.

Finally, the sage spoke:

“Anger immediately creates a distance. When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are no longer close, their emotions are divided and they go miles apart. To cover that distance they yell. The angrier they are, the louder they shout. They are no longer in mode of love, of acceptance, of proximity. They are unable to hear each other, shouting is how they believe they can be heard.

And! what happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, they almost whisper, because their hearts are very close. There’s little or no distance between them. When they love each other even more, they exchange even less words, more softly, they murmur, they whisper, yet they hear each other better, their bond strengthens, their love prospers. Finally, they may not even whisper, they only look at each other, silence becomes more potent than speech, that’s how close two people can get when they are in love.

So when you argue do not say words that break your bond of love and make you distant from each other.”

When you find yourself in the situation where you are shouting or even stewing in anger, take a moment - inhale and exhale deeply. Shouting does not make you more right or more heard. See all the anger come together as a ball of dark energy in your head and send that contained ball down your throat to your heart to be healed and transmuted into white light. Do not carry that anger energy around and do not blast it upon others - neither way helps anyone or anything, it is only destructive.

Love, Adrienne

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Love our Earth Day - EVERY day

4/21/2015

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HAPPY EARTH DAY! I wish this day occurred throughout the year. It's a reminder of our responsibility to this planet and future generations. We can all do our part. We must all do our part.

EPA: Every year nearly 900,000,000 trees are cut down to provide raw materials for American paper and pulp mills.

Via Livescience:

An estimated 18 million acres (7.3 million hectares) of forest, which is roughly the size of the country of Panama, are lost each year, according to the United Nations' Food and Agriculture Organization (FAO).
About half of the world's tropical forests have been cleared (FAO)
Forests currently cover about 30 percent of the world’s land mass (National Geographic)
Forest loss contributes between 6 percent and 12 percent of annual global carbon dioxide emissions (Nature Geoscience)
About 36 football fields worth of trees lost every minute (World Wildlife Fund (WWF)

Photo credit: thenaturaleye.wordpress.com

Photo credit: Greenpeace

Facts you should know from 1bagatatime.com:

Just 14 plastic bags contain enough petroleum to drive a car a mile.
Americans throw away an estimated 380 billion plastic bags a year.
In manufacturing, paper bags emit 50% more global warming gasses than plastic bags.
Paper bags do not biodegrade in landfills (due to lack of oxygen).

Not just a mid-ocean issue...

Data from the Pacific Institute - It is estimated that in 2006:

Producing the bottles for American consumption required the equivalent of more than 17 million barrels of oil, not including the energy for transportation
Bottling water produced more than 2.5 million tons of carbon dioxide
It took 3 liters of water to produce 1 liter of bottled water

REDUCE - REUSE - RECYCLE - It's not just a catchphrase!

Respect, Love and Care for the Earth we all call home and share.

Love, Mother Earth and Adrienne :)

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The Message

4/14/2015

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Have you ever heard a song or maybe read a poem that describes you to a T? That happened to me on Sunday. I ventured out to a new church and it’s as if the Reverend knew me and all I’ve been going through – it’s as if her message was written just for me. There are a few things that she said that I would like to share here (paraphrased from taking notes). Perhaps something will resonate with you as well:

We can only receive that which we can accept.

I realized, I’ve been putting in my order to the Universe, but I still hold so many contradicting beliefs that I wouldn't even be able to accept my order if it were fulfilled.

Why is life hard - because, we make it hard. It’s our perception of the situation viewed through fear, doubt, resentment, etc. that is making the trouble for us.

It really is about how we handle situations and the role we allow our emotions to play. If I didn’t let fear, doubt or resentment play such prominent roles, my life would be easier.

Life will give us the same lessons over and over again until we learn and if we don’t learn, then they can escalate until they bring us to our knees.

The situations I’ve found myself in just the past year alone have been remarkably difficult, stressful and destructive. I have been brought to my knees and now I see that I need to really figure out what the lessons are if my life is going to improve.

Ask yourself: What resistance am I in?

This is a million dollar question. What resistance am I holding? It’s blocking Spirit. It’s not allowing me to flow with life. I am so entombed in negativity that I can barely sense the good in life and the good is where the flow is at. Fear is always the root of resistance.

I decided that my 'homework' this week is:
What resistance am I in? What patterns are repeating and are escalating in my life?
Recognize the good around me.

My prayer:
Help me give up this resistance. Help me open my heart and KNOW this situation differently. Show me the path of least resistance – an easier way to remember who I am.

*** After I left the service, I sat outside with the intention to reflect on the message I heard. Right away, a hummingbird flew right up to me just a few feet away, just hovering above eye level and it stayed there for a while until it flew off. During my reflection time, I realized that boundaries are a definite issue that has repeated continually throughout my life. I acknowledged that fear is at the heart of all of my negative reactions to the situations that have been evolving in my life. I could tune in and feel my resistance, my rigidity. A few hours later, I looked up the meaning of the hummingbird: protecting boundaries, fearlessness, flexibility and adaptability. Pretty cool confirmation from Nature, huh?

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Second Chances

4/7/2015

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Per consumerism, Easter is associated with chocolates, Easter baskets full of candy and toys, dyed eggs and photos with the Easter bunny. Per Christianity, it is associated with redemption - saving, renewal and second chances. I came across a story that embodies second chances for those needing 'saved.'

Many animals wind up in shelters and too many are neglected and or abused. The Humane Society says that they rescue thousands of these animals each year. Anyone who has a pet knows how loving and comforting animals can be. It's sad that people still take their anger and resentment out on animals as well as on other humans. There is a wonderful program in Massachusetts that is giving both dogs and inmates a second chance to establish bonds, trust and reconnection. Watch this beautiful 2 minute trailer below for the documentary Dogs on the Inside to learn more about this awesome opportunity of second chances.

Love, Adrienne

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A Third Eye Perspective

Why we shout in anger

Love our Earth Day - EVERY day

The Message

Second Chances

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