The 3 C's (and then some)

Last week I had the happy opportunity to take part in my cousin's special day. It was a joyous wedding and I was brought to tears quite a few times due to the amount of love that abounded. Being the sentimental somewhat crafty one in the family, I came up with an idea for a slightly unique wedding gift. No matter how much we care about or love someone, we will inevitably hit some rough patches. Without those rough patches, how can we grow? I approached her guests during that down time after the wedding and before dinner and asked each one to write down a piece of wisdom/encouragement for the couple. I folded all of the flower shaped papers and placed them in a decorated Mason jar with the sign: "The... who needs Dr. Phil when you have... Wisdom Jar. "

While I was considering what advice I'd offer, this project got me thinking about relationships in general - friendships, romantic, familial, you name it. It occurred to me that there are 3 C's for successful relationships:

1. Communication - you have to communicate and do so clearly. Stuffing it down creates resentment and assuming they understand you or can read your mind gets you no where. Be open, be honest and communicate your thoughts and feelings on matters that are important to you - in as loving a way as possible. Miscommunication is what derails relationships.
   
2. Consideration - be considerate of the other person. Try putting yourself in their shoes for perspective - which can be easier said than done. But, if you make it all about you, things become one-sided. Relationships are about taking into consideration the thoughts and feelings of another.
   
3. Compromise - try to meet the other person half-way. A relationship involves both giving and receiving. Try to find that happy medium.

Since I wrote this advice for my cousin's romantic relationship - I also added the C's of:

• Cuddle - cuddle, cuddle and cuddle some more.
• Caress - with tenderness; open your heart so that love flows through your caresses.
  
• Cherish - each beautiful moment you have with each other.

What wisdom would you offer up? What else leads to a successful relationship?

Have a beautiful week!  Love, Adrienne :)