New Year, New You - Part 5

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Usually, our worst critic is ourself. We are the hardest on ourselves. It may not start out that way, but over time we tend to become our own worst enemy. It is now time to be our own very best friend. It is time to F.L.Y. - First Love Yourself. Some people believe that this is egoistic. The truth is, it's the BEST thing you can do for yourself. The trick is to love yourself from your heart. 

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Whenever you have a negative thought about yourself - change it to a positive one. If you're having trouble believing it, change it to a question. For example - you are unlovable -> I am lovable (but, I really don't believe this) -> Why am I so lovable? (this is a rhetorical question). When you state it as a question, it activates your brain who says, "wait a minute, this isn't our usual belief, but it must be now so I'd better adjust." Putting your affirmation in the form of a question is called an afformation. For more information about this, look up Noah St. John, afformations.

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Or, if someone says something negative to you - ask yourself if it's true and see if it resonates. It's very important not to listen to the ego mind, but to the heart. If someone says you're stupid. Ask yourself, "Am I stupid?" Does it feel right? Does it feel true? Does this answer bring you peace? If not, then change it to a positive, such as "I am intelligent." Most often, when someone puts you down they're either reflecting a part of you that needs your attention (maybe you call yourself stupid a lot) or they have issues and it's not even about you. In either case - do some inner reflection and LOVE yourself. 


Tip: Be your own best friend and LOVE yourself. It's time to F.L.Y.