Perhaps one of our greatest faults as human beings is that we are so judgmental. We are judgmental of people we know and of people we don't know. We judge people on their skin color, religious belief, political view or sexual preference. We judge people by what they wear, how they speak or by their actions. We judge those who judge us. We even have a name (or two) for judgmental people... Judgy McJudgerson. I've been asking myself, why do we feel the need to judge? What drives us to do so? I know I'm just as guilty as anyone else. It can be a hard habit to break. Why do we feel the need to judge any one person let alone an entire group of people? And why are we sometimes so judgmental of ourselves?
I don't have all the answers as to what pushes us to judge, but I do believe that when we judge others we're looking at certain traits and how they don't apply to our belief systems or we're responding to some inadequacy that we feel in ourselves. I think we judge others to feel better about ourselves or it is induced due to some kind of fear that we hold. The world would be a much better place if we tried to understand or accept each other rather than put each other down. You hurt my feelings, I hurt yours and the cycle continues - until you stop it.
So, how do we pull back from being so judgmental? That is also a good question. Here are a few things that I've been trying to do:
1. Catch yourself when you're judging others.
I make a conscious decision to try to take notice when I find myself judging someone.
2. Ask yourself 'why?'
I ask myself why I'm judging someone and what is that telling me about me?
3. Know the story/know the person.
It's easy to judge, but until you've walked in someone's shoes… Whatever you're critiquing - they are still a person, just like you. They may act a certain way and it may irritate you, but it's their life - not yours. I try to remind myself that I don't know their whole story.
4. Instead of sending them negativity, send them love.
I tend to use the Ho'oponopono: "I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you." I recite this in my head while trying to feel it in my heart and I try to send them love - some people are easier than others. Something that recently came through that I'm also trying is "I see the beauty in you. I see the beauty in me." Instead of looking at the negative, look for the beauty. For some, it may be buried deep, but it is there. All of us come from Source. All of us come from Love. We are reflections of and for each other.
5. If you're judging yourself - stop. Use the Ho'oponopono. Replace your judgment with a positive. Tearing yourself down does not work. Instead, try building yourself up. If you feel others are judging you, remind yourself that it's none of your business what others think of you - it only matters what you think of you. I've noticed that when people are being judgmental of me or of what I do - it's reflecting my own insecurities. As I'm peeling away the layers and getting to know myself and accepting who I am, I'm not as bothered by what other people think. I don't take it as personally as I have in the past.
If you have any input on why we are judgmental or how we can amend that, I would love to hear it. Feel free to comment below.
Love, Light and Hugs to you all - Adrienne :)
Hello! I'm Adrienne Almamour, an empathic intuitive conduit. I assist people by detecting and clearing their subconscious emotional energy blockages. This blog is a commentary and reflection of life from an intuitive standpoint which also incorporates ways that allow us to be from our heart.